Guarding Our Privacy

There has been a lot of concern about privacy nowadays and how to protect it. However, what is more important for a person is not to misuse it. Observing piety in our public as well as private lives is among the three things that Prophet Sallaho Alaihi Wassalam has termed as savior acts (منجیات).

Privacy and seclusion is sometimes admired by the pious people in order to enhance their relationship with their Creator. Salat and specifically salat e tahajjud enhances this relationship.

نمود جلوہ بے رنگ سے ہوش اس قدر گم ہیں

کہ پہچانی ہوئی صورت بھی پہچانی نہیں جاتی

Taqwa and piety tame the nafs of the pious people and this seclusion helps them spend sometime in private with their Lord. They have conversations that doesn’t need words and lips..

تم سا کوئی ہمدم کوئی دمساز نہیں ہے

باتیں تو ہیں ہر دم مگر آواز نہیں ہے

ہم تم ہی بس آگاہ ہیں اس ربط خفی سے

معلوم کسی اور کو یہ راز نہیں ہے

While seclusion has its benefits, my mentor Hazrat Maulana Hakim Muhammad Akhtar sb RA used to give a practical advise that a person who often finds himself or herself surrounded in the sins, and seclusion aggravates the urge for their evil desires, should refrain from observing seclusion. Such people, and most of us fall in this category, should involve themselves in any permissible activity or mingle up with good friends.

طبیعت کی رو زور پر ہو تو رک

وگرنہ یہ سر سے گزر جائے گی

ذرا دیر کو تو ہٹا لے خیال

یہ ندی چڑھی ہے اتر جائے گی

In essence, we must guard our private lives and refrain from evil deeds that are easier to commit when away from people eyes. But we must keep in mind that He is with us when nobody is with us.

هوا معكم وأین ما کنتم

چوریاں آنکھوں کی اور سینوں کے راز

جانتا ہے تو سب کو تو اے بے نیاز

Courteous Behavior

It is reported in a hadith

أكمل المؤمنين إيماناً أحسنهم خلقاً

The most perfect of the believers in faith, is the one with the best behaviour among them.

Good deeds are a gift and favour from Allah SWT which creates noor and brightness in our hearts but it is important to preserve it. Unpleasant behavior ruins all of these hard-earned bounties.

My Shaikh Hazrat Maulana Hakim Muhammad Akhtar sb RA says that the most perfect of all believers are not mentioned as those who offer tahajjud or perform nafl fastings rather it is the behavior.

Our Prophet Muhammad’s sallahoalaihewassallam behavior is the guideline for us. He not only forgave his staunchest opponents upon overpowering them at the conquest of Makkah but, right after that, also blessed the newly embraced people with lot of booty after the battle of Hunain.

My Shaikh says that even if we find our relatives at fault we should not wait for them to ask for forgiveness. Do not stop meeting and greeting them and giving them gifts. تَهَادَوْا تَحَابُّوا Giving gifts is a means of increasing compatibility and love.

However, at times, we find ourselves at the crossroads where we have to choose between appeasing the society and obeying Allah swt. In all such scenarios opting to appease the society will lead to ruin the purpose of life.
It is reported in a hadith لا طاعة لمخلوق في معصية الخالق  that it is forbidden to disobey the Creator in order to appease the society.

My Shaikh, Hazrat Maulana Hakim Muhammad Akhtar RA used to advise that if a person invites us to his/her wedding party where some immoral acts are expected to take place, even in such situations instead of becoming harsh we should give them presents before the wedding date and explain the reason of our absense from the party in a decent manner.

Radoolullah Sallallahoalaihe Wasallam advises that we should try to mend fences with those who push us back, support those who withdraw their support from us, and forgive those who perform injustices to us. This is the glimpse of behavior that we should try to practice.

صِلْ مَن قَطَعَك وأَعْطِ مَن حَرَمَك واعْفُ عمّن ظَلَمَك

We must ask ourselves as to who deserves our attention the most and start the journey towards perfection.

صحبت اولیاء

If one likes to stay close to God
Then stay under the guidance of the pious people